Recognize what is happening: You have been triggered. Even if you feel it was your partner who was triggered, you’re having a reaction to their reaction. One of the best ways to recognize you’re having a reaction is to notice how your body signals to you.
Recognize the physical signs of mental distress. Are you experiencing feelings of physical agitation, heart racing, shaking, muscles tightening … Your body is uniquely equipped to signal you that your brain perceives the situation as dangerous. You’ve been activated into high alert. Consciously acknowledge to yourself that you’re ready for war, or ready to flee.